Friday, September 29, 2006

Oh Suzie-Q


Suzanne and I at my senior prom--- 1988

I got a call from a long-time friend today to tell me that she is back home in Little Rock to visit! Suzanne and I met in 1987 at Arkansas Governor's School in our Area I class (Mathematics) and we became instant friends. That summer was SO life-changing for me---besides meeting some of the most incredibly intellignet, interesting people of our age group from around the state, the program was designed to challenge our belief systems and encourage a liberated approach to perceiving the world around us. My favorite memories from AGS were hanging out with my best friends, Suzanne and Brian. As luck would have it, we all ended up attending college in Memphis, Brian and I at Rhodes and Suzanne at Christian Brothers. By another twist of fate, Suzanne and Brian both now live in Oregon with their respective families. I can't wait to see Suz when we get together on Monday and meet her kids. I will post a current pic of us and we can see how much we have changed in the past 18 years!

Thursday, September 28, 2006

Scary Halloween pic


The Baroness and I

This was my all-time favorite Halloween---NOT because of the outfit, but because my friend, Carlos, is the most vivacious person you could ever hope to meet and there is NEVER a dull moment around him. I can't wait to visit him in Chicago for his Valentine's Day Red Party.

Wednesday, September 27, 2006

Common Ground

On this blog (as in life) I try to focus on the positive whenever possible. I feel that what unites us is always more important than what divides us; our common ground more important than our division and more importantly finding solutions to our problems more important than simply griping about them. Yesterday I was unable to maintain this focus. I received an (unsolicited) "press release" from a person that holds political aspirations. The person (who I will not name because I don't want to give him attention I feel is undeserved) issued the press release to denounce today's protest organized by the Right to Serve campaign. This person represents no group or interest other than their own and feels justified in judging what is the right way and wrong way of combatting the discriminatory "Don't Ask, don't tell" policy. I don't want to go into all of the ins-and-outs of how much I was appalled by the content of this press release or the sheer audacity of this individual, but I would like to point out that whether we agree or disagree with a group's method, we should look to see whether we are trying to find solutions to problems or merely sitting in the peanut gallery criticizing those that are at least doing something. I hope that we all renew our efforts to find that common ground.

Thursday, September 21, 2006

Got Pride

Want to help make Little Rock Capital Pride a success? We are currently seeking corporate and individual sponsorships for Capital Pride ’07 to be held June 3rd at The River Market Amphitheatre. As a growing event, it is critical that we raise money to provide top-notch entertainment, advertise the event and pay for the prime venue we have secured. If you know of a prospective sponsor, work for a company and can refer us to the appropriate contact or have any suggestions, please email me at joelafountaine@littlerockcapitalpride.org or visit http://www.littlerockcapitalpride.org/donatesponsor for more information. Thank you for your support and we look forward to seeing you at our biggest and best Pride ever!

Tuesday, September 19, 2006

I have Links!

I freely confess to being a novice blogger. Hopefully, I will get the hang of it soon. I am proud to say that I (finally) figured out how to add links to my blogs! Why on earth don’t they create a forms-based template so you can just add a link like you do other items on your blog profile? Oh well, thanks to Karmin’s assurance that it wasn’t that difficult to edit the HTML template, I took the plunge and have added my first round of links. All of the links are relative to Little Rock Capital Pride. Kamrin is our Fund-Raising Chair, David is our President, Barb (owner of littlerockpride.com) is our Vice-President and John (Becoming a Doctor) was our founder. The next learning curve I intend to tackle is using tags--- anyone want to give some advice?

Saturday, September 16, 2006

A New Friend

Do you ever meet or talk with someone and realize instantly that this is someone that you definitely want to be friends with for a long time? I do, and I just had this experience. One of the benefits of working with Little Rock Capital Pride is coming across some amazing people and Carolyn Wagner certainly fits the bill. I just want to share some information from her site for Families United Against Hate (http://www.fuah.org)

A Very Short History of Families United Against Hate by Gabi Clayton
My son Bill committed suicide after a hate crime in 1995. I posted Bill's Story on my website and Carolyn Wagner found the story in 1996, after her son William was assaulted in a similar hate crime. (A 1999 article about the Wagner family is posted on my site here.)
We started an email correspondence and an amazing friendship began. In the fall of 1997 Carolyn, William and I met in person for the first time. Then in February 2000 we were in El Paso, TX for the opening celebration of the Lambda GLBT Community Center with William and his dad Bill, and with Dorothy Hajdys-Holman, the mother of Petty Officer Allen R. Schindler Jr., who was murdered in Japan in 1992 by a navy shipmate.
Carolyn and I realized that we, and too many others, had become unfortunate “experts” on what it is like for survivors and their families to cope with a hate incident and its aftermath. We talked about what we needed, and all the ways this had affected us – the emotions, the legal issues, dealing with the media, etc.
Neither of us wanted all we had learned (and continue to learn) to be wasted. Although we were already attracting others who were coping with this issue, we dreamed about finding a better way to share, and of building a coalition to support victims and their families as they cope with hate.
We are now creating FUAH's structure as a work in progress.

Thursday, September 14, 2006

We're rolling now

As I make this post, I am on cloud nine! First off, Little Rock Capital Pride was awarded a scholarship to attend the World InterPride conference next month in Portland, ME. I will be representing our group at this conference with Pride organizers from all over the world. This is going to be an awesome opportunity for networking and learning from other groups and I believe this will be such an advantage in our own Pride planning. Also LRCP is making head-way in recruiting corporate sponsorships and plans are well underway for our Boo Bash fund-raiser. We are also making some great contacts with other groups and organizations--- today alone I received calls from Governor Huckabee's press secretary, Holly Dickson of ACLU Arkansas and Kathy Webb our newly elected state legislator!

Sunday, September 10, 2006

Updated URL on Jeremy Glick

I noticed that the story on Jeremy Glick I referenced in the following post is no longer found, so I thought I would post an updated link http://www.post-gazette.com/nation/20020911glick911p6.asp

5 Years later....still My New York

To mark the 5th anniversary of September 11th, I thought I would share an email that I sent to all of my family and friends following the attacks. It is a very long post, so I will let it tell the story. The title of the message was "MY New York".....

As most, if not all, of you know, I moved to New York about a year-and-a-half ago and moved into the East Village of Manhattan in June. Many of you have written or called to make sure that I was safe and I want to thank you for your love and concern. In most cases I told you that I would write more later as I was understandably in a hectic state to reply to everyone and at least let them know I was "OK". Also, I didn't have the words yet to describe the impact of the tragedy. A week later, I think I am ready. Please bear with me (this message is quite long) as I try to salve the wounds and ease my own burden by getting this off my chest. First off, I was never in any danger during the catastrophe. I boarded the subway at Bleecker Street (about one mile from the twin towers) heading north to Grand Central Station about the time the first plane slammed into the first tower. I got to Grand Central and boarded the train to Westchester without knowing anything had happened. All of the sudden cell phones began ringing all over and the news was spread through the train car like wildfire. When the second plane hit, a sense of panic spread just as suddenly. We all knew that two planes crashing into the same building, the same day and near the same time is no coincidence. I am not ashamed to admit that I had the urgent need to call my mommy. I spoke with my mother and she updated me from Arkansas with information from the newscast. Throughout the 45-minute train ride people would shout out updates to the other passengers-- some true and some proving to be false. During the ride we discovered that we were one of the last trains to get out of New York before the lock-down began. Bridges and tunnels were shut off, no trains departed nor returned to the city, airports were diverting flights to Canada and it looked as if whichever stop you chose to take, you were going to be stuck there for the foreseeable future. I got to work and found my co-workers huddled in offices listening as the devastation continued to unfold. Then the realization hit me that the person I've been dating for the past couple of months worked in one of the buildings neighboring the towers. You can imagine my horror when the first and then second tower collapsed. It would not be until almost 8pm before we made contact with each other and I could breathe again. Needless to say, no work was done on Tuesday. Being a company that constantly travels, we were desperate to contact our co-workers and make sure they were all safe. By 10:30 we received the good news-- everyone was accounted for!! But we did not have any time for celebration as word spread of loved ones known to be in or around the buildings. Everyone seemed to know someone.I regret to say that out of the 5,000 people missing and presumed dead, I've counted 35 connections to my company (sisters, brothers, wife, cousin, close friends and two firemen that also volunteer at the same station as a few of my co-workers). Personally, I lost two acquaintences from my neighborhood bar. I would like to also share a story that you may have heard. This e-mail was sent by my friend, James thatworks in my department. There is a url attached to a story that is sure to bring you to tears if youhaven't heard it yet......."Jennifer Hurwitt (maiden name Glick) and her husbandDoug Hurwitt are friends of ours. Our friendship began at Union College. Many of you will remember Doug and Jennifer from our wedding in 1991. I was shocked to see the following story on MSNBC last week about Jennifer's brother Jeremy. This story will remain with me for the rest of my life. Please keep the Glick family, along with all the other families that have been forever affected by this horrible tragedy, in your thoughts and prayers." http://msnbc.com/news/629077.asp?cp1=1 Basically, we found out how small of a world thistruly is.I managed to get back to the city that night (it took a car ride to the North Bronx, two subways, a walk to 2nd Avenue, an over-crowded bus ride to 14th street and an eleven block walk to get there!) and discovered my apartment just as I had left it. Thankfully, the wind was blowing Southeast and I live Northeast. Tuesday night there was an uneasy quiet in my neighborhood. Traffic had been blocked south of 14th and the silence was deafening. Anyone that has ever lived in NYC can tell you that once you get used to the noise it is hard to sleep without it. I live on the same block as the Hell's Angels of NY motorcycle club and you can imagine the noise level as they ride down the streets with their Harleys! My office was closed on Wednesday and with nothing else to do, I wandered the streets. Not being able to donate blood and without an organized civilian volunteer effort established, I felt helpless. I ended up on the corner of West and Christopher streets where a spontaneous crowd had amassed to cheer on the rescue workers. It was quite a sight to behold. Every firetruck, cop car, ambulance, and even dumptrucks and forklifts were met with thunderous applause, signs calling them heroes and shouts of"thank you". Old Glory was taped, pinned, stapled, or strapped to anything that would hold it. Muscle-bound Chelsea boys, neo-punks, hippies, Wall Street brokers and even a homeless guy or two stood shoulder-to-shoulder to show these workers how much their efforts were appreciated. I was touched. I was raised in the South where the perception of NewYork is that you can be mugged or raped on the streets and no one will respond to your calls of help because they don't want to get involved. This is categorically false! On Thursday the volunteer effort mobilized in force. I was lucky enough to be allowed to direct incoming volunteers at the Jacob Javitz Center. I stood with a color-coded map and directed people to different staging locations according to what donations and/or services they offered. I watched as people came in from everywhere with whatever items were requested. The sheer volume of clothing (socks and underwear were the biggest need), water, canned food, masks, steel-toed boots, medical supplies (everything from O2 tanks to band-aids), cellphone batteries and chargers-- you name it, whatever was asked for people brought in. Corporations and individuals overwhelmingly responded. I watched a convoy of trucks from Maine bring in water, Canadians bringing care packages, fahsion houses donating clothing and (of course) the Red Cross with EVERYTHING, it was surreal. New Yorkers have and are responding to this crisis in a phenomenal way. I am going to paste a portion of a message that my friend Susan sent to me. She describes her impressions from visiting the city this week in a way that I can not...."Spontaneous shrines take root on sidewalks, streetcorners, in fences. Bases of statues erected to yesterday's heroes have been converted to testimonials of gratitude for the heroes of today. Bundles of flowers, letters of thanks, poems trying to sift sense into the terror mix with flows of multi-colored candlewax, absorbing street corners and telephone poles,making the mundane places holy. Paraffin tendrils of hope cling to the narrow tops of the traffic dividers around Union Square Park. Candles everywhere - lit,unlit, dripping unheeded; burned-out glass shells of spent wax stand in mute testimony to monumental loss. People move through the park, stopping to place a lighted candle amidst the sea of prayers and wax on the ground. People stopping to write messages on muslin sheets, to leave a piece of themselves on these massive murals of healing. A man sleeps on the ground, sprawled on a newspaper covered with images of destruction; a woman keeps the vigil even in her sleep, curled around the flames of hope which flicker in the ceramic pot next to her. The monuments are covered with our writing - pleas for peace and cries for justice scrawled side by side are a testimony to the freedom for which we are dying. The City is literally covered with flyers made by desperate families seeking missing members. Papers with wedding photos, people in birthday party hats, dancing, living. Every surface I see looks back at me; trashcans, mailboxes,light poles, construction vehicles, rescue vans. We who are moving through the streets stop to read every plea - to look into the eyes of the dead in their moments of greatest happiness. To honor their memory;to lend strength to their family's hope. These flyers have formed the most overwhelming of my experiences here. Forever in my mind will be this image: A massive conflagration obliterated the living and a heinous cloud of devastation blew their death into the air. Somehow they managed to re-emerge on every surface of the City, the faces of those forever missing. As it has always been in New York we represent every skin color, age, background, gender. We share only our indomitable, living, human spirit. I allow myself some healing in the thought that what we share is, by far, greater than that which divides us, and is a key to moving forward."
This is My New York. God Bless New York, God Bless America and God BlessYou All and thanks for allowing me to express my thoughts and feelings.

Growing groups....

Today’s blog theme relates to both our Little Rock Capital Pride group as well as my own growing group of friends here in Arkansas. Yesterday we had our monthly meeting of LRCP and it was great to see a couple of new members getting involved, Amanda and Laurie. Amanda shared with the group information about SoulForce , which she is working with and Laurie shared that she is new to the Little Rock area (from Hot Springs) and is really looking forward to becoming active in the community. Ladies, welcome to our group and we are SO glad to have you. Jordan Krueger, who has been serving as our webmaster, was elected to our board to replace Casey Lynch, who resigned to focus on her new business. Jordan has done a great job in creating our new website and we are very pleased to welcome him to the board. After the meeting, David, Chad, Barb, Kamrin (who was officially elected as our Fund-raising Chair) and I went out for dinner and some adult beverages. Then Kamrin’s husband and two beautiful children, William and Alexandria joined us. It was so nice to hang out in a casual, non-meeting atmosphere with these guys and girls.

On Friday I stopped by my friend Michael’s house and met Jim and Nick. We chatted for awhile and it was great meeting more guys that I feel so instantly connected with. I look forward to seeing more of them.

I have only been back home for a few months now, but it is amazing how rooted I already feel. Here’s to more good friends and even more good times!

Friday, September 08, 2006

Getting more involved

Once again, I have selected a theme for my blog that seems to apply to many different areas of my life.

First off, Little Rock Capital Pride-- I was recently tapped by our President, David W. Quinn, to head up recruiting our corporate sponsorships. Sponsorships are vital to the success of all Pride events and our board is committed to aggressively pursuing them to ensure the success of our event. I am proud to say that we already have 2 companies that have said that they would be glad to sponsor our event in addition to the 4 Circle of 100 sponsors we already had!!! If anyone knows of a potential sponsor, please send me their contact information and for more information check out http://www.littlerockcapitalpride.org/donatesponsor Also, LRCP has already begun reaping the benefits of our association with InterPride (international organization of Pride organizers). Our friends at InterPride (especially Trisha of Atlanta Pride committee and Radar of South Carolina Pride) have assisted us in preparing our sponsorship pamphlet, our sponsorship agreement and helped us to apply for a scholarship to attend the international conference in Portland, ME in October. I was in Atlanta this past week and got to have coffee with Trisha--- wow, what a wealth of Pride knowledge this lady has!! I can't wait to see her again and look forward to meeting our buddy, Radar, either in Portland or when he hosts the Prides of the SouthEast regional conference in February. LRCP is busy planning our first fund-raiser of the year—BOO BASH—on October 28th at Sidetracks in NLR. Kamrin, our fundraising director, has been hard at work planning a fabulous event. If you would like more information about the event or would like to help out, contact her at doddified@yahoo.com LRCP was recently highlighted by Out in America (check out http://www.outinlittlerock.com ) and was featured in this month's Star magazine (http://ozarksstar.com/pg-22.html ) We have published our first ever newsletter ( if you have joined our Yahoo group, you can view the file LRCP082306NL.pdf at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LittleRockCapitalPride/files/ ) ; if you would like to feature your group, event, business or website that would be of interest to the GLBT community in LR, then send me a submission at joelafountaine@littlerockcapitalpride.org Our next meeting is tomorrow, September 9th from 3:00 to 4:30 at Central Arkansas Library's Main Branch at 100 Rock Street. We will be in the Fribourgh Room on the 2nd Floor. There are a lot of exciting developments in our Pride planning and many opportunities for you to get involved; so please join us.
Secondly, I have started to get involved with Arkansas AIDS Foundation. As an HIV+ person, I know what AIDS Service Organizations provide to their clients. Everything from health care referrals, HIV testing, assistance with nutrition, housing, social services and case management for dealing with the bureaucracies like Social Security, Medicare and insurance companies as well as support groups, workshops for responsible relationships, providing condoms---these groups are TRULY life-savers. I met with Joan Gauthreaux (fellow Cajun) today and I am very excited about working with her in the future. My plan is to volunteer at health fairs, do some education/prevention speaking, and eventually be trained to do pre- and post-test HIV counseling. I am very excited about a CDC- sponsored program for HIV+ gay white men called Healthy Relationships. The workshop is 5 2-hour sessions running Monday-Friday night 6-8pm (with a meal provided) that helps participants make better decisions on disclosures, risk reduction behaviors and stress reduction. The next workshop starts on Monday, but I plan to attend the next series beginning on October 2nd. There is also a program designed for all of you negative folks called Positive Outlook Leaders that will pay you to teach other gay men about HIV and how to protect themselves. If you would like more information for either program, email Joan at joang@araidsfoundation.org
And finally, I am really beginning to build a circle of friends here in Little Rock. My friends James and Brian and Michael and Eric have introduced me to a lot of interesting people and I am so glad to see how we are getting each other involved in different groups and meeting new people thus extending our circles.
I am SO glad to have all of these things going on in my life and really hope that more people continue to get involved in our community.
Peace and Love,
Joe